friends?

i am typing this as a overall statement, not in a one place and time occurance.

i cant say that i have had the best weekend ever. i had my fair share of fun. but there are always those bad points that make you think and put things into place. i love all of my friends, i love them all the same with the amount but not all the same when ppl take advantage or treat you a way a friend shouldnt be treated. i consider myself an adult being 21. and i know from life experience and with witnessing my peers that i can say that i hold an adult friendship with others. that i am considerably mature for my age. non of this blog i want to refer to my self as perfect in any way. we all have faults as friends. but it comes to a point when those faults turn into more than a fault but a problem. 
everyone knows communication is key. lack of communication can cause indifference between two or more people. thus arguments and misunderstandings occur. i can say that i have never had a altercation with any of my friends, and if any have occured then there is a problem. i have come to a point to recognize problems and see if they are even mine or something more. i can see problems from both sides. i can see my faults and hope to restore what once was. but when problems occur and occur. is it really worth it to put any effort in it at all anymore? you take things with stride and hope for a better day. but it is so burdening when problems that are not yours magically become yours? yes it is. when a friend feels like they cant help, they feel like shit. when a friend scolds you for not helping enough, they feel like shit. when a person cannot control their anger and just pull you down with them, thats just plain shitty.
it is not fair to the person receiving a burdening problem. i am not describing this to where a friend should be there for a friend, but to where a friend will throw at you thier problems in a forceful and angry way. having to control a situation that isnt yours is unfair. having to be there for a person is fair. if they are your friend, then be that friend. when a friend yells at you for no other reason than to yell is unfair.
friends who dont recognize the the caring help when they spout off hurtful things at you, well are they really a friend? put in what you can to help that friend, but no one person can heal every problem within another person. at a point, considering i am speaking of adult friendships, if things keep reoccuring to where you know it is out of your hands. a person should know whether to wash their hands of the situation or stick through it hoping the other will come through. do i have hope? yes, but is it enough? no. 
myself or anyone as a friend should never have to just deal with a situation for lack of control of the other. 

obviously my mind is everywhere. so i shall stop and try to grasp on to that hope and look forward to that better day.
but i will never just let a friend treat me less than.